Mind & Psychology

3 Step Plan to Finish Your Unfinished Business

Just about everyone has unfinished business…those things that we say we will get around to one day and of course ‘one day’ never comes.

It could be getting in contact with a friend we haven’t spoken to for ages or fixing the shelves in the laundry.

Here is a 3 step plan that even the worst procrastinator can follow to get your unfinished business, well, finished.

  1. Get all those niggling ‘to do’ things out of your mind and written down on paper. Your brain will thank you because it no longer needs to worry about remembering all those things.
  2. Select one unfinished ‘to do’ thing and do it today. Do the same next week and every week for however long it take you to tick off your list.
  3. Congratulate yourself on having more energy, a clearer brain and feeling oh so relaxed.

Whilst it is obviously better to do things when they come up, it is not always possible. So keep a running ‘to do’ list and every six months go through this 3-step plan to re-energise and reconnect.

As for my dirty little secret unfinished business that Katie Clift on radio 96.5FM made me fess up to:  cleaning up my email inbox. I’m sure I have about 4000 read emails just sitting in my inbox. Guess I know what unfinished business I will be cleaning up this week?! 🙂

When Procrastination Prevents You From Decluttering

How many times have you determined you were going to get organized and then failed to do so?  Procrastination is one of the common reasons for sabotaging your decluttering efforts and can often be in response to feeling overwhelmed by the task around you.

Procrastination can look like the following:

  • Becoming distracted before you can even get started, by some other project which seems more important
  • Mental apathy and exhaustion taking you over the minute you even think about decluttering
  • Getting bogged down in paperwork, before and during your decluttering efforts
  • Allowing nostalgia to take you over when you’re decluttering
  • Guilt at throwing away perfectly “good’ items
  • Putting off action to some nebulous future date
  • Continuing to buy new items when your house is already overflowing
  • Indecision about where to start your whole decluttering process
  • Looking for perfection and wanting to do things ‘the right way’

Feeling overwhelmed when you look at the mess your house is in can stop you from starting the decluttering process.  You take one look at the clutter and do everything in your power to not declutter.  The project seems too large and you simply don’t know where to start.

Consider Newton’s Law.  To get a stationary object (that’s you) to move, a force will first need to be applied to it (that’s your will power).  Once started, the object will then continue until another force is exerted to stop it.

To get yourself started on decluttering you will need to have a kick start or incentive, but once you start you will most likely find that you like the results and continue on.

The kick start can come in the form of a shock, or a need of some sort.  For example, family/friends are coming to stay with you for the holidays.  Or it maybe that a personal incentive that will give you the first little spurt of energy to get going.

Don’t put it off for tomorrow
Remember, tomorrow never comes and ultimately this will show in the state of your house as your piles of clutter grow ever bigger waiting on tomorrow.

Start today and do a 15-minute dedicated round of decluttering.  Continue doing this for a few days and you will find that you will make progress. You need to start somewhere, and at some point in time, so why not make the time now?

How You Can Achieve Your Home Organisation Dreams Right Now

Are you waiting for some magical moment in the future to start enjoying your life and getting organized at home? It sounds awful when you think about it, but many people do exactly that. They think, “I’ll be organised when…”

The real question is:  Why not now?

You might be stuck in your home looking around you and despairing at all you have accumulated over the years and yet you convince yourself it is easier to live with the mess than take action. However, the important question is: Do you enjoy your day-to-day life? In this case, strive to make a change right now so that you can enjoy your life, both now and in the future.

Follow Your Dreams
It’s easy to identify the things you don’t like, or the things you know you don’t want to do with your life. However, you need to focus on what you do want to do. This can be a very difficult step because it’s hard to take risks when you’re not used to doing so.

Spend time figuring out what you want out of your life and your home. What’s most important to you? Is it clean surfaces? Is it having one clutter-free room in the house? Is it having your kids take responsibility for packing up their toys? Make a list of the most important things you would like changed. Once you’ve figured out what’s most important and what needs changing, you can start to take action. You may not know it, but even without fixing anything, just knowing what needs to be fixed is half the battle.

Do What’s Most Important Every Day
Achieving your ultimate home organisation dreams can happen by taking step by step action every day. The trick is doing something every day that brings you closer your dreams. It’s a way of making sure that there’s a ray of happiness in every day of your life because you know you are getting closer and closer to achieving your goal.

When They Take a Long Time
What if your ultimate home organisation dream is going to take a long time to achieve? For example, what if you need to declutter and reorganize your whole house? You won’t achieve this goal straight away, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy your life every single day.  Break your big dream down into little goals, so instead of being overwhelmed by sorting your whole home, set a smaller goal of sorting your kitchen.  Then each day sort through a draw, or the pantry or a cupboard.  And then in quick time, you will have achieved your goal of an organized kitchen.

The Proper Mindset
In the end, though, it all comes down to an important shift in your mindset. The sheer will to take action to achieve your dreams brings your dreams to life. On the other hand, when you ignore your dreams, you ignore your life, and you’re forever a far cry from making them happen.

When you learn to enjoy your life and do something that makes you happy every day and takes you one step closer to your home organising goal, it won’t be so difficult to wake up in the morning. You may still need that cup of coffee for a jumpstart, but you’ll be perfectly happy with your journey.

How to Organise and Simplify Your Life

Life can get pretty chaotic. No matter how much you accomplish, it always seems like there’s something else you should be doing or something more you should achieve. In these moments, you have to take a step back to find the peace.

If you don’t find peace within the chaos, you’ll soon be leading a stressful and unfulfilling life. While you may want to achieve as much as you can, you also want to make sure that you don’t lose yourself or your sanity in the process.

Tips For Finding The Peace
Follow these tips to reduce the stress in your life so you can find some peace:

1.    Trim your schedule. If you find that you’re taking on too much, it’s time to go over your schedule and drop what needs to go. It’s hard to admit that you don’t have superpowers sometimes, so you must concentrate on giving yourself a manageable schedule.

2.    Get organized. When your life feels chaotic, it’s probably disorganized. You’ll feel out of whack and as if you don’t even know which end is up. You can combat this feeling by staying organized, keeping lists, and valuing your time. You can still take on a lot, but only if you’ve got an organized plan in place!

3.    Plan an escape. Whether you need to get away from an ongoing busy life, or one chaotic situation, you have to give yourself an escape from time to time.

  • Plan a mini vacation or give yourself an evening if you’re short of time. The point is that you need to make some time for yourself.
  • Read a book or play a video game, but do something that allows you to unwind.

4.    Pace yourself. One way to manage chaos in a healthy way is to properly pace yourself. You need to preserve your energy so you can make it through the day. Doing so allows you to keep a clear head and rejuvenate your mind.

5.    Practice a peaceful activity. One easy way to maintain some peace is to take up a peaceful and relaxing activity. Consider going to a yoga class or trying meditation. These acts are not only relaxing, but they also allow you to adapt your thinking so you can regularly achieve a peaceful mindset.

6.    Accept your situation. A chaotic life can be overwhelming or even depressing at times. Instead of promising yourself a better life in the future once the chaos is gone, you can give yourself one right now. Accept that your life is in a chaotic state, but take the big step toward finding peace.

Find What Works For You

Most importantly, focus on slowing down, simplifying your life, and allowing yourself the chance to fix the imbalance you might be experiencing.

Even a small effort can help you in a big way. If you’re taking the time to find peace, you can also create your personal definition of that peace. That might be finding a person who can help you unload your problems, or perhaps you might enjoy journaling or reading inspirational books.

Whatever is peaceful for you, do it on a regular basis – for you and for those you love.

6 Tips on How to Make Time for YOU in Your Hectic Life

With so much to do and what seems like so little time to do everything in, it is essential to make time for yourself.  Spending time on YOU is critical! It enables you to feel rested, calm, stress-free, and fulfilled. When you’ve had proper rest, you can accomplish more and have the stamina to continue to look after yourself and your family.

On the other hand, if you neglect to make time for yourself, you’re more likely to become depressed, stressed, or unhappy and feel overwhelmed. Perhaps you feel that there’s just not enough time for you. Somewhere in the mix, you lost any time you ever had for yourself. However, the good news is that, with some creativity and perseverance, you can recapture some of that critical you-time!

Consider using these ideas to reap some rejuvenating time for yourself:

1.    Pen yourself in. Make time for yourself by adding it as a priority in your schedule or diary. As you fill out your planner, include it along with your other important tasks and stick to the appointment!

2.    Give yourself 15 minutes when you get home. Insist on at least 15 minutes to recoup and rejuvenate when you get home from work. If you have to lock yourself away family members, than that’s what you must do! This time allows you to properly transition from your work life to your home life.

•    Explain this new technique to your family so that they understand its importance. This way, no one feels like you’re just avoiding them! Arrange for someone to look after younger children – this could be your partner or older responsible child.

•    A simple strategy is to soak in the bath for 15 minutes. The water will relax you, and you’ll feel refreshed after a long day.

3.    Take advantage of your lunch break. Your lunch break is there for you to do what you please. After you eat, make good use of your time by going for a walk, exercising, listening to inspiring music, or even get in a bit of shopping if that’s what relaxes you.

4.    Enjoy a break while the kids nap. Here’s a good tip for stay at home moms. Give yourself some much needed “you” time whenever your children sleep. You might be tempted to get as much work done as you can while they’re asleep, but you’ll find you actually get more done if you give yourself a chance to rest and rejuvenate yourself.

•    Explore new ways of accomplishing things like household tasks while your kids are up. For example, turn chores into learning games that you can all participate in.

5.    Go to sleep earlier. Going to sleep earlier at night will enable you to get up in time to enjoy some morning “me” time. Just think how pleasant it would be to enjoy a cup of coffee in the morning without having to look at your watch.

6.    Take a vacation day. Take a vacation day to just relax and do whatever you like. You don’t have to take a trip to take a vacation! Time spent on your favorite hobbies will also rejuvenate you. When you return to work, your renewed energy may surprise you!

At first glance, these strategies may look impossible to implement into your busy routine. A good way to get started with them is to incorporate just one at a time. That way, you only have to adjust to one small change. As you become accustomed to that one strategy, you can add another, and then another, until one day you’ll find that making time for yourself is easy.

Once you learn to make time for you, you’ll have more energy and time to enjoy the good things life has to offer.